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The Art of Mental Training
By DC Gonzalez with Alice McVeigh
Inspired by True Events
Copyright � 2006 Daniel C. Gonzalez. All Rights Reserved.
dcgonz@earthlink.net
GonzoLane Media
To the Warrior/Champion within you . . .
TABLE OF CONTENT
Introduction
A Note From DCGonz
Chapter 1: The Three-Minute Lesson
Chapter 2: On Attitude
Chapter 3: Gaining the Mental Edge
Chapter 4: Learning to Fly Navy Jets
Chapter 5: The Importance of Self-Belief
Chapter 6: Imagineering and Self-Confidence
Chapter 7: The Critical Three
Chapter 8: Understanding the Mental Warrior
Chapter 9: Controlling Anger
Chapter 10: Shots Fired
Chapter 11: On Losing
Chapter 12: Fear of Failure
Chapter 13: Controlling Fear
Chapter 14: On Performance Choking
Chapter 15: Cool Under Pressure
Chapter 16: The Internal Critic
Chapter 17: Too Intense
Chapter 18: Your Dream
Chapter 19: On Goals
Chapter 20: Do the Work
Chapter 21: Getting There
Chapter 22: Changing Your Mental State
Chapter 23: The Present
Chapter 24: Prepare to Win
Chapter 25: Walk On
The Art of Mental Training
Introduction
I never saw Leo-tai angry, but it was he who had taught me how to use the anger
energy should it ever arise--and how to effectively redirect it.
"Rather than lose control," he would tell me, "you must learn how to use the
energy. You must become like a smiling assassin, Danielsan, and channel the
energy; let it help your resolve. If you lose control to the energy, your opponent
will win."
It was the use of this concept that led to the "defeat" of several of my opponents
without my even having to fight. Sometimes no words are required, only eye
contact. With that alone one is marked out as predator, the other as prey: one the
assassin, the other the mark. "It is at this subconscious level of communication,"
Leo-tai once told me, "that one wins a fight without having to fight . . ."
Just as easily as he slipped into my life, Leo-tai slipped out of it, once he had
taught me all that he'd meant to teach me. Despite all my best efforts--and all
my resources as a Federal Agent--I could locate no financial trail, no property
trail, no address, no family, and no contact point . . . he had gone, leaving
nothing behind beyond his teachings; and my memory of that half-smile he used
to give me when I managed to surprise him.
The last that I heard of Leo-tai was many, many, years ago, second-hand, from
sources that I didn't feel I could trust. Until recently, at an invitation function in
New York City, I met an elegant elderly lady, an Irish psychic. Internationally
recognized and respected in her field, she had also written several books and was
currently on a speaking tour when our paths happened to cross.
"You are a teacher," she said the moment we met, "I sense many students around
you."
I smiled, but gave her nothing neither as confirmation nor denial; yet she
continued: "I'm getting a very clear message from someone who has crossed
over and who wants to tell you something. He says that you were friends not
only in this life but also as great warriors in another lifetime. He wants me to let
you know that he is with you when you teach."
"Oh, really?" I said, using the tone of a seasoned Federal Agent who doesn't
believe a single word an informant is telling him.
"Yes, really." She replied, rather ruffled by my skepticism. "He says his name is
Leo-tai."
"Did you say Leo-tai?" I asked a little shaken, taken aback.
"Yes, Leo-tai," she repeated, looking away slightly as if listening or searching
for a distant memory. Then she turned back to me with sudden certainty.
"He is a very old soul, you know, a great master of the Far East. But please tell
me, how is it that you came to know this teacher and what is it that you teach?"
But I could hardly answer . . . for knowing that my old friend was dead.
The Art of Mental Training
A Note From DCGonz
Welcome to the Art of Mental Training.
Sports Mental Training has been called the Science of Success. But make no
mistake. If you imagine that the lessons here apply only to sports and athletes
you'd be wrong. For it's the Everyday Warrior, from all walks of life, and all
types of scenarios, that stands to benefit immensely from the knowledge and
techniques that lie ahead. No matter what you do, or whatever challenges you
face, The Art of Mental Training can help take you to another level of
performance, achievement, and personal success.
Any time that you arrive to engage; event-energy gets mixed in with whatever is
going on inside your head at the time. It's the emotions and feelings that this
mixture produces that ultimately end up affecting how well we perform.
If, for example, undesired emotions like nervousness, anger, or fear, happen to
surface as a result of this mixture, the Warrior/Champion must have the right
knowledge, tools, and techniques at his disposal so that he can use them to
ensure that his performance does not suffer.
It's what champions know how to do well--and it's something that everyone can
learn how to do. But it's only those who set out to learn and practice
performance mental training techniques that gain all the benefits and achieve the
highest level of results.
The better your self-belief, internal self-talk, attitude, focus, and mental climate
are going into an event, the better your situation will be when the event-energy is
pumping through you.
By understanding what to shoot for in terms of the Ideal Mental Climate, and
having been given the knowledge, tools, and techniques required to achieve it,
the Warrior/Champion is able to empower all aspects of his performance.
So just for starters . . . understand this:
Whatever is going on inside your head has everything to do with how well
you end up performing.
The Art of Mental Training
Chapter 1: The Three-Minute Lesson
As the mental-edge trainer for university athletics, it was easy for me to spot
which athletes wanted the mental training and which athletes didn't care. This
particular kid was one of those who just wasn't interested. While the others
were listening and thinking, he yawned and admired his biceps. While the other
students raised questions or provoked discussions, he was only concerned with
the physical aspects of his sport: wrestling. Only a freshman, he was entering
the big leagues now--competing at NCAA level for the first time--but that
didn't seem to worry him during our sessions.
When it came to the crunch, however, the pressure proved to be just too much.
Just a few minutes before his first match at this level, he rushed over to me,
distraught and desperate, and started begging for mental training help on the
spot. He'd just learned that he'd drawn the top-seeded wrestler in the
tournament, a seasoned senior accustomed to annihilating opponents with
comparative ease. As chance would have it, my unbeliever was about to learn a
valuable lesson.
I looked at him and I couldn't help thinking: what an interesting opportunity.
This kid is really scared; he's in a completely disempowered state. Clearly, he's
not ready to compete at anywhere near the level of his true potential. A real
mental mess stood in front of me asking if I could help him, while, in his mind's
eye, he was already suffering a humiliating defeat at the hands of his opponent.
The kid was very shaken; and we only had a few minutes to turn this thing
around. He was up next, and the clock didn't show much time left before the
current match would end.
With so little time left, what could we do I wondered?
Right then, I remembered something that Leo-tai had told me. "Danielsan, one
should never look where one does not wish to go . . ." I had an idea.
"Are you ready to trust me?" I asked him.
"Whatever you say, coach."
"Right. Then step over here and let's get busy."
A few minutes later, when his name was announced, I walked with him to the
edge of the mat. He hadn't taken his focus from his task for a single second. All
I'd done was to provide him with the mental technique; he did the rest inside his
head.
Let me tell you, when that kid stepped on to the mat he was a force of
dominance, confidence, and technique. Within a few minutes he went from a
fearful freshman wrestler heading for a crushing defeat, to an unchained
gladiator, a champion who owned the arena. He helped to create one of the most
exciting high-scoring, action-packed matches of the tournament. The match
went the full distance, and in the end my unbeliever had lost the match by only
one point. The crowd couldn't believe their eyes. Their champion had barely
survived his first match!
What he did is not difficult: no magic, no hypnosis, no smoke or mirrors. I
simply guided him through a process with three simple instructions. I gave him
one minute to deal with each instruction, before giving him the next one. In that
short time he was able to change his state completely.
I promise that I will teach you exactly how to do this for yourself a little later in
the book--and much more--but first, let's think about what this real-life
experience brings to light.
I need you to recall an occasion when you performed at your best--and then
remember a time when you were at your worst. Now when you look at those
two performances, I want you to be honest with yourself and ask, what made the
most difference between the two? Could it have been your mental state that
made the most difference?
Most athletes will admit that a big part of the difference was exactly that, and
that the performance difference had everything to do with their mental state. In
the case of my unbeliever, the difference between what was promising to be one
of his worst performances ever, and what had turned out to be one of his best
performances ever, was, after all . . . mostly mental.
And that's the important point: no matter what your game is, or what the
challenge is, the difference between great performances and average
performances is mostly mental. Once you reach a certain level of skill, it's your
mental skills that start making all the difference. The better they are, the better
you become--and the better your results will be.
Some professional athletes will tell you that they spend considerable time on
mental training. They'll tell you how important it is to read books, practice
mental techniques, and become accomplished at using relaxation and imagery,
because they know from experience how it helps their performance. Champions
know that the mental game can teach anyone how to stay focused, goal-oriented,
and motivated to succeed, as well as how to better deal with both temporary
setbacks and real adversity.
The Mental Warrior understands that time spent on the mental game will pay off
with improved performance--sometimes almost instantly. The
Warrior/Champion learns to use techniques that help him get out of his own way,
so he can reach the next possible level of performance, not by random chance,
but by focused choice, over and over again.
It's not that difficult. Look at what my unbeliever was able to do within a few
minutes of beginning to apply mental training techniques.
Remember: Powerful mental techniques are user-friendly and capable of
delivering results very quickly.
The Art of Mental Training
Chapter 2: On Attitude
During one lesson I noticed Leo-tai looking at me as if he was trying to decide
whether I was really listening.
"A bad attitude can cost you everything, Danielsan; it affects not only how you
feel, but also how you perform. This you must remember, for when you teach,"
he told me.
That's how he'd start sometimes. Just throw something out to see if he'd caught
my attention.
I remember teasing him once, saying, "I know when you do that."
"What?" he asked innocently.
"You know, check to see if I'm really listening."
"Really? And did you know that I know when you know that you think you
know what I'm doing?"
The truth is: I was listening, it's just that his teaching method was so
spontaneous that, no matter what mood I was coming from, I had to set it aside
right away as he started, or I might accidentally offend the creative old soul. . .
So, I responded, "What do you mean for when I teach?"
"Oh someday, I'm sure you will," he said. "Now, always remember, a warrior
learns how to control his internal mental climate. And having a good attitude
helps him to achieve that control by creating an expectation of success. The
right attitude helps empower him to take the necessary actions and to focus on
the things that must be done-- a good attitude can make all the difference."
"Why?" I asked. "What makes it so powerful?"
"The reason is quite simple," he said. "It's because a good attitude, a positive
attitude, creates optimism, positive energy. And positive energy is much better
at setting good things into motion than negative energy is. Warriors with
negative attitudes become victims of their own negative outlook; they lose
because their own negativity drains them. Winning has a lot to do with having a
good attitude. Not only in competition, Danielsan, but also in life generally.
You must always remember that."
Many years later my mind flashed back to that lesson.
I was dealing with an elite athlete trying to come to terms with a very tough
competitive loss. While still deeply hurt, he asked me, "What's the use of
working on keeping a positive attitude? It didn't seem to help me--did it?"
It's at times like these that I wish Leo-tai could step in. When an athlete is
devastated one must tread lightly. I set out to try and explain what Leo-tai had
taught me (and had somehow known that I would need to help someone else
understand one day).
"Listen," I told him, "I know you're upset, and I also know how hard it is,
because I've been on this path before you. But I'm here to tell you, as a wise old
teacher once told me, that working on keeping a positive attitude is what will
help you work through this bad patch. A positive attitude will create the
opportunity for a great comeback or for a great performance--A positive attitude
never works against you. But a negative attitude will always find a way to work
against you. Even if one finds a way to win despite a bad attitude, the fact is that
he could always have performed better still."
Like Leo-tai used to do with me, I caught myself looking to see if my athlete
was listening. I don't like to offer up what Leo-tai taught me if I sense an athlete
is tuned out. In his case he seemed to be listening, so I felt encouraged to go on.
"A champion teaches himself the skill of turning things around inside his head,"
I explained. "He learns how to look at a negative setback both as temporary, and
even as an opportunity for positive change. He knows that the things he can
learn from his loss will make him even better, even stronger, in the long run.
The Mental Warrior learns from his setbacks and he doesn't allow them to
distract him from reaching his true potential.
"So keep your self-talk positive. Keep your outlook positive. By doing so, you
give yourself the best chance to perform well. Take on your inner feelings with
courage and determination; and never allow a bad attitude to hold you back from
achieving the level of personal success that you are capable of.
"Never beat yourself up after a loss--there's always something positive to be
gained, something to be learned, even from a negative situation."
"I remember how after an especially tough and disappointing loss one of my kid
champions summed it up. `I was doing well,' he told me. `I'm better than he is.
I'm not sure what happened--but next time he won't be so lucky."
"So you see? You must choose to stay positive," I told him, "Even a kid can do
it."
"I know," he said slowly, "But right now, I just feel so bad, I feel so low."
I understood the heaviness in his heart, the disappointment, and as Leo-tai had
taught me, I wanted him to understand that he had the power to turn this thing
around in his head.
"Look, try this," I pointed up to the clock on the wall. "Give yourself just five
more minutes to feel bad about this thing if you really feel you need to, and then
after those five minutes are up, decide to start seeing the experience as an
opportunity to help you figure out how to create a positive change in the level of
your play. Turn it around in your head." I urged.
He looked up at me and nodded. Mental control starts with a decision. It was
clear that we had a deal.
Five minutes later, I watched him walk out of that locker room right on time, just
as I'd expected him to. You could tell by the way he walked that the decision
had been made. The temporary setback had now become an opportunity for
positive change. He had turned things around in his head. He was focused on
the opportunities that lay ahead for positive change. He had decided that his
attitude would be positive.
It's not always easy; it takes a decision and a commitment to a different point of
view.
Champions can do that--and so can you.
Remember: The Warrior/Champion understands that a bad attitude can
cost him everything. It affects not only how you feel, but also how you
perform.
The Art of Mental Training
Chapter 3: Gaining the Mental Edge
Sports psychology studies what successful people do. One of the most profound
things validated through study after study of many great athletes, is that if you
take a group of athletes with equal ability and some receive mental training
while others do not, the ones who were given mental training will always
outperform those without. Why? Simple: because those who use mental
training skills develop a Mental Edge.
Once, when I was young, my grandfather took me to see the legendary soccer
player from Brazil � Pel�--at Tampa Stadium.
I'll never forget that warm summer night, as he dominated the game with three
electrifying goals. That was a long time ago, but I'll always remember the way
he dodged down the field, feinted and swerved on a dime to get past defenders,
the ball seemingly glued to his feet--until he let it fly inside the goal posts.
Years later, I came across a story about Pel� in the writings of the late Gary
Mack, a noted sports mental trainer with whom Pel� had shared what he
considered to be the two keys to winning � Enthusiasm and a Mental Edge.
Pel� told Gary about the routine he used before every game he played. He
would go into the locker room about an hour early and find a private corner in
the locker room. Then he would lie down using a towel as a pillow and cover
his eyes.
Pel� explained how he began to watch a film in his mind's eye: a film of himself
as a kid playing soccer on the beach in Brazil. He let this "movie" bring back
glorious memories of the sand, the warm sun on his back, the ocean breeze
feathering his temples. He would vividly recall the thrill of the game, the joy
that it brought to him; he would immerse himself in his love of the game,
allowing himself to relive those glowing memories. Allowing himself to feel
them.
In short, before every single game he played, Pel� made sure to put himself in
touch with his pure love of his sport.
Then Pel� moved forward in his mental movie. Pel� described how he began to
review and watch himself relive some of his greatest moments in world
competitions. He talked about letting himself feel and enjoy the intensity of
those winning feelings over and over again. He talked about how crucial it was
for him to make a strong connection with those feelings and images in his past
before he proceeded to imagine himself performing at his absolute peak in the
upcoming event.
Finally Pel� told Gary that he would see himself as he was about to become:
playing brilliantly, scoring goals, dribbling past defenders in a mental movie
made up of positive images with strong feelings of enjoyment and triumph. He
imagined everything before it ever happened: the crowd, the atmosphere, the
field, his own team, his opponents, he saw himself playing irresistibly like a
champion--as a force that could not be stopped. But most important, he told
Gary, was to remember that it was not just about vision and imagery, but also
about feeling the emotions associated with success. He pointed out that he
vividly imagined how good it all felt.
Only after about a half-hour of relaxation and mental rehearsal, would Pel�
begin to stretch and prepare his muscles for the job they had to do. By then he
could relax because he had already primed his mind for victory. By the time
he'd jogged into the stadium, he was (almost literally) unstoppable. Physically
and mentally he was armed and fortified to win. No one could touch him.
In that short time with Gary, Pel� shared with us exactly how to tap into what he
considered the two essential keys to winning: Enthusiasm and a Mental Edge.
I share this lesson with all my clients and suggest that they too create an internal
place, a place where their minds can go before any event in order to rehearse,
visualize, feel, and prepare exactly as Pel� used to. This is where you go to play
and watch your "mental highlight tapes"; this is where you once again connect
with the fun and love of your sport, to feel that winning feeling. Most of all, this
is where you go to mentally prepare yourself and to gain the mental edge before
battle.
For the athlete who's just starting out and who may not have past successes to
replay, I suggest that they pretend that they do and that they watch themselves as
if they did. After all, it's your movie!--you're its director and producer, its
editor and writer; the more imagination you can squeeze into it the better. Mix
in some enthusiasm with your imagery and now both of Pel�'s keys to winning
are in the formula. It's also important to practice seeing yourself overcoming
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The Art of Mental Training
Chapter 25: Walk On
As we took a long walk on the coastline near his home I caught myself reflecting
on how all the years seemed to have passed by so quickly ever since that last
lesson so many years ago. Leo-tai still had that same effortless stride that he'd
made me keep up with so many times before . . . We walked a long time in
companionable silence, surrounded by seagulls, wind, and waves.
When we finally stopped Leo-tai sat himself up on a comfortable-looking rock
and I leaned up against an even bigger one. He crinkled up his eyes as he looked
out to sea and I noticed for the first time that he looked tired. (How old was
Leo-tai? I wondered; I'd never even asked.)
"Look at the waves," he murmured. "Endlessly renewing themselves, endlessly
feeding into each other. There's no end to them. No, just the renewal and
withdrawal, over and over again."
A seagull circled over the rocks.
"It is the cycle of the earth," said Leo-tai. "We're here, we're gone. We are born
and we die. The world keeps turning, but too slowly for our understanding."
"I hope you're not intending to die any day soon," I joked, a bit uneasily.
"Who knows? So much is not given to us to know. But, even if this should
happen, Danielsan, it is not the end. It is only the beginning of something else,
something different. This is why I never say goodbye."
I was startled to realize that this was true. In all the years I'd known Leo-tai;
he'd always just drifted off, or shut the door with a smile. I couldn't ever
remember his saying, "Goodbye."
Something about his tone made me glance at him again, was this the goodbye he
never actually said? Was he going where someone else needed him more? It
had been years since we had trained together steadily, but he always seemed to
be there, the voice on the end of a telephone, the letter from some place I'd never
been, a presence by my shoulder, his teachings now always a part of me.
"Now," he said, once he was settled. "Tell me why you are sad."
"Sad? I don't think I'd call it being sad," I said. "Perhaps feeling a little lost--
somewhat incomplete . . . yes--but not sad."
So much had changed. The military had put me in hot spots all over the world. I
had seen enough. I was done with it. I had managed to walk away--unlike
some of my friends, and life had dealt some devastating blows. I sensed that he
could tell that I wasn't kidding, that I was really disillusioned with everything . .
. Yet he at least was still the same, still watching me with that old, considering
look in his eyes.
"You've become disillusioned." He said.
"That's an understatement." I replied.
"There came a point when it was clear to you that where you were no longer
inspired you--and you realized that if you stood still, then that's where you
would stay. What's wrong with choosing to not stand still? Congratulations.
Some people live their whole lives in chains without realizing that they always
held the key."
He looked at me and gently shook his head.
"Danielsan, who knows what awaits you, but never mind the uncertainty that
occupies your thinking right now. Understand this. Life doesn't always go the
way we want it to go. You dream your dreams, you work your goals, and still,
life may not go as you have planned. But think about it, where would we be if
we had not chosen a path, if we had put forth no effort into achieving a plan? In
those cases I would say that one had no direction at all, and there is nothing good
about that."
"Well, that's exactly how I feel right now." I told my old friend. "No direction
at all."
"Maybe you feel that way, Danielsan, but I don't see it that way. If someone sets
themselves free--from whatever; if someone picks themselves up after life hits
them with a sucker punch, that is some direction, at least--wouldn't you agree?
Picking yourself up or setting yourself free is direction. It is part of achieving
something."
I listened as the sun drooped down beyond the horizon ahead of us.
"Please Leo-tai, can you just help me see your point?"
"I can. My point is that even though we may not understand it, sometimes life
will put us on a new path, one that we would have never asked for, that we have
never dreamed of, or ever imagined, . . . And after all, isn't that what's really
happening to you?"
"Instead of over-analyzing and doubting the direction your life has taken, why
not simply accept the fact that there is a new path that has been set before you
right now? Stop the internal self-doubt. It only causes confusion. The fact is
that whatever was--is no more. It's gone. It's in the past. And whatever is--
well, isn't that what really matters?"
I was listening--as I watched the waves and the seagulls.
"The past is gone my friend. You can look back on it but it's only a reflection.
The future lies ahead . . . but it's a future that has not yet been realized. So in
reality, today is all we have. And today is here. Why don't you just start
walking on your new path, one step at a time? Conjure up some new dreams,
cast them out to the universe, keep your head up, have faith, and discover what
lies ahead. Life itself has put you on this path. Just trust what is and be with it."
Leo-tai continued.
"I believe that anyone who does this, Danielsan, soon finds the new path taking
them in a most natural and comfortable direction. Embrace the new adventure;
walk into it with strong self-belief and before long--I suspect--you will find the
new direction rewarding, and amazing beyond anything that you could have ever
imagined . . . Follow the path set before you; follow your destiny. The universe
does not make mistakes; everyone is exactly where they need to be. You must
remember this whenever it seems that the pattern of your life has lost its
firmness of purpose. Always remember . . . you are exactly where you need to
be, and then--" Leo-tai paused.
"And then what?" I asked him.
"And then my friend . . . you must walk on. You must simply--walk on."
I let his words sink in. As the sun hazed into the sea, I remembered so many
other sunset lessons over the years. Perhaps Leo-tai was remembering too, for
he suddenly said, "From amongst all our lessons what one most important thing
do you think I would always want you to remember, if there were one, what do
you think it might be?"
So many things. I thought. I recalled the fight with the raccoons; the many
mistakes I'd made; all the times he'd picked me up off of the floor, dusted me
off, and started me over again. I thought hard. Learning to never give in; not
allowing negativity; self-discipline; staying in the present; control of anger;
control of fear; Imagineering; to believe in my dreams.
And then I remembered: "Self-belief is what gets everything going."
"Self-Belief," I told him. Our eyes met and he glowed back at me.
"Very good, Danielsan, you worried me sometimes, but not anymore," he told
me. "Now, you don't worry me anymore."
"Really?" I said.
"Well, come to think of it--no, not really, I take it back."
"Too late, I already heard you say it," I joked.
"So?"
"So that's it, if I heard you say it, then it must be true, and you can't take it back
. . . Besides, I've got to get going and meet up with some people. It's time for
me to say goodbye."
He looked at me. "Oh Danielsan, it's never goodbye my friend," Leo-tai
reproved me, shaking his head, smiling as if he were still worried about me.
"It's never goodbye," he told me as I watched him turn away--still smiling--
and start his walk back along the surf.
As he slipped away, I watched him go; I let him go, a small figure, disappearing
into the distance. I wondered if this might be the last time I would ever see my
old friend--did he know it?--Today, I still wonder--but back then, I let him go.
And I reflected.
Once more and somehow--he had done it. What he told me, his insight that day,
made sense. His lesson helped me.
And then, as he'd wanted me to . . .
And like we all must do, at one time or another . . .
We walk on.